Optimism and pessimism are attitutes that shape our entire existence. Have you ever given much thought about whether you are an optimist or a pessimist and how does that affects you?
Optimism is a driving force in our lives so if you are wondering- can a person just become an optimist, the answer is YES. We can look at the world any way we want to, it’s a choice!
Optimists are the ones who believe that every obstacle in their life is going to teach them something. They see an oportunity in every problem and know that things will be better in the future.They believe they can overcome whatever life throws at them and continue on their way. They are people who aren’t affected by external conditions but have an inner power that generates genuine positivity.
Generally, optimists have better health and more success in every aspect of their life. Usually they achieve their goals and translate failure into a useful lessons for improvement. They are less prone to anxiety and depression due to their have a positive mood.
Pessimism or optimism affects our emotional and mental condition. Defines the way we look at life, the kind of relationships we make or how creative we are. Optimists laugh more, are rarely dissapointed, dare to take risks, to be more successful and to have better relationships. Optimism is an attitude that emotionally intelligent people have, says D. Coleman in his book “Emotional Intelligence”. Faith and confidence in themselves is the key to their success.
So how does one become an optimist?
We always say that an old dog can’t learn new tricks, but clearly that saying was coined by a pessimist!
- Track your thoughts on a daily basis and notice the negative conclusions that you draw. Identification is the first step.
- When find yourself thinking something negative, shift your thoughts immediately to something positive. You can’t expect to change overnight but just keep doing it until it comes naturally.
- Search for positive aspects of situations and keep reminding yourself of it in order to eventually believe it.
- Encourage others and give positive feedback to them but also to yourself.
- Write down a negative thought and search for the evidence supporting that thought but also ones that argue against the thought. Try evidence that argue against that thought to be more.
- Take the risk of being positive and see how it feels and don’t forget to practice, practice, practice!
With time and practice, you will notice that you can teach an old dog new tricks and who doesn’t like a happy dog?